Low Self Esteem and Body Image SXT 128

Self esteem is a term for a person's overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth while body image refers to a person's feelings of the sexual attractiveness of his or her own body. I haven't said that body image is how people expect you to look or indeed how you look, but how you perceive yourself to look and view your body.

Low sperm count SXT 127

I know we have discussed about watery semen but it isn't always true that if your semen is watery then you have a low sperm count, so it is important we discuss about low sperm count as a sepatate entity. If you have, or know someone who has established medically that he has low sperm count, then share this with him

Dear Yele

It is quite unfortunate that you are in this kind of situation. I would respond in two voices without being judgmental to neither you nor your husband and hope you find my advice helpful.

Yele's dilemma

Dear Doc Laitan,
It is with great shame, anger and sadness that I share my story with you. I have decided to forgive the man who wronged me but I know that there are women like me suffering the same fate as I am, so please share my story. I would make sure my husband reads your blog when you publish my story so that he can know exactly how I feel.

Weak Erection , The solution SXT 126

One of the biggest f**k up for a guy is if Mr Young isn't always in the mood 100% even if the mind and soul are willing.  Weak erections can be so bad for a guy that vaginal penetration is difficult and the cap of the penis cannot reach deep into the vagina for maximum female sexual satisfaction. The woman would always wonder if he isn't sexually attracted to her or if he already prematurely ejaculated. The only party that knows what truly is happening is the guy
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There are so many physical and psychological reasons why a guy might be having weak erections. Read about these causes in earlier topics discussed (check the blog archive).
The solution to weak erection is quite simple and an easy way out is to take medications that can automatically improve your erectile function about 1hour before you have sex every time. Don't forget medications have side effects, eventually.
However, if you want a long lasting solution, I have put together these five steps to help you achieve and maintain a harder erection that is guaranteed to please madam.
1. Penxercise
In my dictionary, this means penile exercise. There are two types of the wonder exercise.
The first is the kegels exercise described earlier in the blog, it isn't only for women, I recommend it for men too.
The second form is a dance routine that makes you wine and twist your waist. This strengthens your core and erectile mechanisms for a stronger erection. Another advantage of this is burning the abdominal fat and flank fat to help you look trim and even more sexy. I recommend "kukere" and related songs lasting about 20 minutes to 1hour every morning before bath.
2. Reduce alcohol and cigarette smoking to the barest minimum.
If you are an alcoholic or chronic cigarette smoker, you can boast of your sexual performance and lie to your friends,but you cannot lie to your self when it's time for action. For most people, sexual performance improves when they quit smoking and drinking. Read more about the negative effects in earlier topics
3. Masturbation is a No-No!
Masturbation reduces your urge for vaginal penetration and thus unconsciously, you aren't in the mood for vaginal intercourse no matter how much you psych yourself. So please, reduce masturbation. And if you can't do this on your own, see a sexologist.
4.  Tight underwear kills your mojo, loose it!
They are sexy and indeed very sexy, but not fantastic for semen production and erectile function. We already discussed this in the blog (check the blog archive)
5. Be in charge during sex.
There are "manly" positions that puts you in control and psychologically gives you an upper edge during sex. The wheel barrow position, doggy and missionary positions helps you achieve a firmer erection and control of your ejaculation.  When a woman wants a favour or quick sex, she would offer to ride you and this makes you ejaculate quickly...yep, it's true. This however weakens your erection in the long run because there is no time for exercising your penile muscles that usually happens during sex. So let her ride you, but not often.
Other things worthy of note is to eat right, work out more and be stress free. These make you energetic and willing to take on the sex task as you please.
If you have a bad weak erection problem and would like an ultrafast solution without drugs, book an appointment today (doclaitan@gmail.com) and we'd help you through a five session therapy that is bound to change your sex life for good.
Cheers
Doc Laitan

Nymphomania. Sex addiction in females SXT 125

A Nymphomaniac is a female with very high sexual urges and sexual drive that her sexual desires are almost insatiable.It is a type of hypersexuality just like compulsive masturbation in males. Both are sexual dysfunctions of the stage of sexual activity; desire.

Commercial sex workers cannot be classified as having sex addiction, they do what they must to survive. A good percentage of them use psychoactive drugs to stay focused and energetic so they can have sex as many times as possible daily. This isn't so for real female sex addicts, they don't need drugs, it isn't a hobby. Most of them realise it's a problem and are not happy about it. Some of their spouses initially don't mind but when the brother realises the sex in excess, he runs.

Imagine having 2 rounds of sex before bed, she wakes him up during the night for one round, forces him for another round in the morning,then masturbates before she goes to work, after work she uses her sex toys on herself and can't wait to see her bobo.  This is a classic example of a nymphomaniac. Guys if you think you like to have sex, don't pray to meet a nymphomaniac because you will run!

These people with hypersexuality can also be classified as having an obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) because the idea and urges keep coming to them despite their efforts to exclude them from their mind(obsession) and they react to the urges by having sex(compulsion). For them having sex is an OCD, It must be done.

The implications are usually of the psychiatric and physical types. They eventually seek help due to depression, anxiety or suicide. They are liable to sexually transmitted infections, they may be carriers of different infections too and before seeking help, they could have transferred these sexually transmitted infections to different people. They are generally adventurous due to the insatiety and thus might be homosexual as well as heterosexual. In extreme cases, some become pedophiles, could have also tried having sex with animals or even inanimate objects . They can also have different sexual dysfunctions occurring along side nymphomania.

People don't readily admit to being a sex addict but when they come to a psychiatrist or sexologist, it is usually their partner or loved one that encourages them to get help. People seek help for depression and other psychiatric disorders, so why not seek help for sex addiction?The first step is admittance of the problem . To a professional, a problem is a problem, and once therapy is started, everything changes.

Cheers
Doc Laitan

Low sex drive. How to increase your libido SXT 124

Ever wondered why your friend likes sex so much and why to you sex is a chore? Sex makes a relationship thick. I particularly feel that sex makes communication simple, and communication in any relationship is key.Your sex drive makes you yearn for sex, your sex drive gives you urges, sex drive makes your spouse crazy about you

How to prevent boredom in your relationship . Part 2 (Tips for men) SXT 123

Men can get so used to their daily routine and could be extremely content with it, forgetting a relationship consists of two people. A man is comfortable as long as his spouse is smiling even if she is bored and pretending to be happy.

How to prevent boredom in your relationship. Part 1 (Tips for women) SXT 122

1. Be trendy

When he met you,  he saw something he liked and therefore you don't want to change the person he fell in love with......BLA BLA BLA ... Babe, the only constant thing is change.

Masturbation SXT 121

Let's face it, Masturbation is a secret fantasy that should be talked about. Don't worry, I'd do the talking.....