03 June 2013

Masturbation SXT 121

Let's face it, Masturbation is a secret fantasy that should be talked about. Don't worry, I'd do the talking.....


It's ancient name is ONANISM, it is also called "jerking off", "jacking off", "wanking" .....It has so many names.

Masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one's own genitals, usually to the point of orgasm. This can be done by hands, regular objects or sex toys . Mutual masturbation is when you masturbate in the presence of your spouse or if your spouse stimulates your genitals with their own hands or with sex toys.

Believe it or not, masturbation has been tried by 4 out of every 5 people. It is very common in both sexes and all ages. I am sure you have heard of it, done it or seen someone do it(TV, books). For some people, it is the only form of sex known,  and for some people they do it to have children (assisted reproduction). Religious clerics forbid masturbation in some religions and consider it a sin.

Benefits of masturbation
Most advantages of sexual intercourse discussed in SXT 104 are also the advantages of masturbation since they are both sexual activities leading to orgasms.
Masturbation also leads to stress reduction in people without sex partners
Mutual  masturbation in couples strengthens the relationship and a spouse can find the other as daring, confident and adventurous.
Masturbation is often a way out when the other partner is unavailable or unwilling.
Masturbation may be a pointer to a good sexual appetite in a spouse.
Masturbation obviously reduces the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
Masturbation can help one achieve heightened sexual pleasure and understand their body's response to orgasms.
In people with low sexual desire, masturbation may be the way to get back on track.
Masturbation is particularly useful for couples finding it difficult to achieve orgasms.

Disadvantages of masturbation
Guilt after the act is over
Bruising if too vigorously done
Masturbation can become a compulsive task, and bad habits are difficult to stop.
Masturbation is often accompanied by a sexual dysfunction and thus causes a deviation from the normal pattern of sexual intercourse.


When asked about masturbation, I tell my clients to practice mutual masturbation with their spouse and not alone. Masturbation should be done by your spouse for you by hand or sex toys, not with your own hands. It strengthens the relationship and relieves sexual tension. As long as everyone reaches orgasm at the end of the day, every one is happy. If you do not feel guilty about having sex with your spouse, why should you feel guilty about mutual masturbation? It's part of sex, and I endorse it! Cheers