10 June 2013

How to prevent boredom in your relationship. Part 1 (Tips for women) SXT 122




1. Be trendy
When he met you,  he saw something he liked and therefore you don't want to change the person he fell in love with......BLA BLA BLA ... Babe, the only constant thing is change.
Most ladies realize this problem early and ask their spouse's opinion. A typical man's response is that he loves you just the way you are and wouldn't change a single detail.  Always trust your man's opinion but have a mind of your own. 
Don't be too comfortable in your skin, look into the mirror and do something different with your hair and fashion style. Be fresh , be innovative , move with trend. When "Chinese " hair extension was in vogue, we rocked it. Now "Brazilian" , "Peruvian ", "Remy" , "Chocolate" hair extensions are in vogue, puleese ladies, rock them! Men notice other women and they wonder what their own lady would look like in trendy clothes and hair styles. 


2. Be willing to experiment and have sex out of bed
The bed is a bedroom furniture that is slept on when you feel the need to sleep. It can also be used for shagging just like the floor, chairs, dinning table, coffee table, kitchen slab (we can be here all day). Don't be the typical woman that gets in bed at night and expects the guy to ask for sex ( baby kindly give me access to your vagina,* in British accent) while you just lie there and receive the fruit of the womb.
Grab him at the door and do it right there...lock the door. When he is on top, moan and sing! When you're in charge (on top), move your waist. Always do something he'd remember.

3. Be sexy at home
Don't wear an apron to make his meals and then call out for him when it's ready. Wear sexy clothes while cooking especially on weekends when he is home.  Go round the house searching and bending, looking for things you haven't misplaced, showing off your curves and selling points. Let this be part of your routine when he is home. He will always want to shag you, he will always want to come home to you. Always!

4. Be willing to let go
Stop asking where he's going or where he's been if he doesn't want to inform you. When he is running late, call or send a message to ask if he would soon be home and if you should prepare a meal. Don't assume he is cheating, don't nag about his movements or give him a curfew, it only makes him worse. Before he met you, he had friends and so did you. If you gave up your friends, should he give up his too? Hanging out with friends is cool, you should try it. Men love women that hang out with their own friends and live life. It is even more fun hanging out with your friends than with your spouse. When he realizes that you are happy, he'd want to go out with you more. And ladies please, when you're out with your man, it is ok if he checks out other women, he's just looking. All you have to do is look at blokes too and make sure he sees you staring, then joke about it and LET IT GO. 

5. Be affectionate
If you love him then show him you do. Tell him when you talk, tell him when you have sex, tell him when you pray with him, tell him during a meal. 
Show him by listening and understanding rather than judging him during an argument.
Show him by putting extra efforts in everything you do for him like his meals, his clothes, the bed, the home, the kids, his friends and his relations.

6. Be calm, especially in public
I have seen a couple in a heated argument at a party, totally unnecessary! No matter what he said or did....sssshhhhh! The cold treatment makes him feel guilty, the nagging and fighting insults his ego and he'd despise you for it each time he remembers it. 
Never raise your voice more than once in 30 days! Do not nag. Nagging means complaining about the same issue repeatedly. If you are upset about the way he does something, tell him once in a calm manner and don't fight him about it. Most men have said nagging reduces the worth of a woman.  The way to effect change is to do something about it and not complain about it.

7. Be wise
Even if you make all the money and he earns a penny or nothing, you don't need to call the shots. A man is created with so much pride and ego. If he is the president of the country and you are just a clerical officer, he would still feel threatened you earn your own money. So no matter the situation, do not attempt to be the head of the family. You are the neck that turns the head the way you want, you just have to make him feel in control.....always. 

8. Be able to use your body
After each serious argument, please have sex. This brings out the soft and vulnerable side of a man and then you can put your facts on the table again while cuddling. The man would also think you're trying to use your body to get what you want. YES YOU ARE! They like sex, we like to get what we want, we both win.

9. Be spontaneous
Men get bored with routine e.g. have sex in bed, sleep off, get  up for work, get home have dinner, have sex in bed, sleep off, get up for work....I am already bored typing the same lines... 

Be spontaneous, drive the kids to bed, eat early, talk, argue, have sex, argue again, have more sex, make fun of his "Mr young getting old",  go out for a late bite, take a walk, wake him up with sex, make him late for work, escape from work, get him a cheap gift, show up at his office, have sex in the car, have lunch some where terrible(mama put), be stuck in traffic together, dance to a ridiculous song with the family , go to bed and snore. I can keep typing...... he would think about you and your craziness for years.

10. Be a woman
Love him , feed him and never leave him #stolen from Garfield.

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Cheers
Doc Laitan