It is with great shame, anger and sadness that I share my story with you. I have decided to forgive the man who wronged me but I know that there are women like me suffering the same fate as I am, so please share my story. I would make sure my husband reads your blog when you publish my story so that he can know exactly how I feel.
I met Olaolu (real name withheld) when I was 22, I was fresh out of the university and a job seeker. He was an assistant HR personnel at the time although now he is head of HR at an accounting firm and we are comfortable. We dated for about 2 years before he asked me to marry him, I was thrilled and so were both our families. What is there not to like about him? He was my knight in shinning amour and we shared the same religious views about pre-marital sex.
On our wedding night I noticed his scrotum was very small and so was his penis. On that night he said he had a headache and went to the bathroom to take some pills, then later we had sex which to me was okay. I was a virgin and so didn't know what to expect but because I am a curious person, I went online and checked images of different sizes of penis. I showed him and we agreed he had a small penis and scrotum.
We have been married for almost 11 years now. We don't celebrate anniversaries because we have no kids and his relatives give me hell. Sex isn't great for me but he is a very nice man , so I persevered. I have done series of tests and he claimed he also had. All results had been normal until a friend insisted we try a new lab, this time together. He had always gone alone and brought back documented results saying he was perfectly healthy.This time again, my results came out clean but the doctor told us he had no testicles! They never came down from his abdomen before he was born(undescended testis) and he can never father a child. He later confessed he had known way before we met but was afraid to loose me, he also uses viagra because he has an erection problem. The first thing I did was to inform his family members about the problem because I had gone through hell with them.
Doc, I love children, I can have children of my own but he wants us to adopt. I want to feel pregnant and have swollen feet, I want to wake up during the night to feed my child, I want to breast feed, I want to potty train my child, I want a beautiful little girl,I want my own child. He wants me to stay. I am almost 36 years old and I guess my clock is ticking.
We were joined for better or worse and all that stuff they say, but I didn't consent to marrying a man that couldn't give me children, if I knew, I would have been prepared. Our marriage is a scam, and I am the victim. I am ashamed that I have no children, my younger sister has 3, they call me aunty Yele (real name witheld). I help my sister whenever a baby arrives, we only have each other,we are orphans. I would really love to have a complete family at last.
Was I wrong to have stuck to my moral views about no sex before marriage? should I have been more inquisitive? He says we should adopt 2 kids and relocate.This is my story, please publish it so he can read it when I am long gone.
P.S, My sister and her banker colleagues are addicted to you. I think your blog is awesome too.
