06 May 2013

Why some women have low sexual desire. SXT 117

A huge difference between both sexes is sexual desire. While women are emotional  bombs, men are raging animals filled with loads and loads of testosterone! Men just can't help it, they will always want more...the only solution is to castrate 'em! (lol).

Now guys, It isn't what you did or didn't do.......she really isn't just in the mood! One of the commonest female sexual problems is loss of desire.The reason for this sexual desire problem is simple; female ovaries produce a large amount of female sex hormones that make us emotional. The Ovaries also produces some male hormones (like testosterone) that play a major role in sexual desire, but in small amounts.

I dont know how easy it would be for you to cram what I am about to teach you but THIS, my male friends, is the manual to understanding why women say NO most times. There are two major hormones that play a major role in the emotional response of a woman throughout the month: estrogen and progesterone.

FEW DAYS  BEFORE THE MENSTRUAL PERIOD STARTS 
Both hormones are at a high level, still preparing the womb for conception, blood supply to the genitals is high and the sensation of a penis at this time gives maximum pleasure. Most women cant explain it but they feel randiest around this period and often crave sweet things. They often indulge in sweet things, then blame painful menses on those sweet things they took. She does the chasing and values public display of affection (PDA). Bros, take advantage of this time because it is about to get worse......

DURING THE MENSTRUATION AND DAYS AFTER
Funny that while some women are edgy, sad or even in pain during their periods, others feel sexy and very randy during this time. But no matter how we feel, sex is a no no during menstruation for most people. 
Immedialtely after the period, both hormones are very low and despite increase in sexual desire, a woman feels low in energy. During this period, little persuasion sets her in the mood *wink(lol).  Days after that, the relationship is said to be stronger probably because the woman is softer, calmer, less irritable and spends less money (yep, true!). Performance is highest days before ovulation, a woman has more energy, smells better, thinks better, eats better and shags best! 

OVULATION PERIOD
This is usually around the 14th day if you have a 28 day cycle. This means that the period comes every 28 days and mid cycle, an egg is released for fertilization by sperm. Ovulation usually last 24 - 48 hours. Some women feel turned on during ovulation, most women feel messed up with internal heat, headaches, mood swings, reduced libido and appetite changes. The way to cope is mild analgesics, cool baths, outings or sleep.  During this period, you do not want to mess with a woman....forget it. If she says no, she means NO.


POST-OVULATION PERIOD
Progesterone level is now very high and since it plays an important role in temperature regulation, body temperature becomes high. The woman experiences feverish symptoms resembling malaria.  The imbalance of the hormones cause premenstrual symptoms of mood symptoms like aggression, anxiousness, sadness and mood swings. Birth control pills help this stage alot by regulating hormone levels.(I don't recommend use of birth control pills for this purpose due to the long term risk of breast and cervical cancers). During this period, when a man asks for sex, he is likely to be seen as an enemy and might act irrationally. She soon regrets her actions in a few days just before the menstrual period starts, and the cycle starts over again.

So the question really is, when would a woman say OK without a man having to beg for hours or days? Hmmmmmmmm......

Here are some tips that should improve the situation.
Try to add some fresh romance into the relationship and spend quality time together.
Visualise your partner as she/he used to look in your early days of dating and allow yourself to feel the excitement you used to feel.
Exercise your mind sexually by reading erotic books or thinking sexy thoughts  especially on the days you think you might make love
Assess how much sleep you're getting as fatigue is the biggest enemy of libido.
Shag as much as you can when she is in the mood, and don't feel left out when her hormones are in control.

Cheers, Doc Laitan