Loosen up and stay on with the sensate focus. SXT 106

Ever heard of the Sensate Focus? It simply means focusing on sensation. It sounds like something basic abi?  Just wait and lemme finish! First of all introduction (lol): Sensate Focus is a psychotherapy technique used to treat sexual problems like anorgasmia (in women), erectile dysfunction, and low sexual desire.

Imagine a babe that just can't have an orgasm. This is actually a common problem, the babe go just dey form ring tone for you. (I think it is now safe to tell Neeto C and Davido that the girls they wrote about in their ring tone tracks were probably faking it, lol). Did you know that one in every four sexually active women actually fake their orgasms? Yep! But really, what did you expect na?  Have you ever bothered asking her
where, how and when she likes to be touched? Ooh, no abi? 

Also imagine this; you are a "madam-my-man-cannot-last-a-minute", before you check the goodie bag, the movie has ended! Chai! Erectile dysfunction is a serious problem that encompasses all problems with having an erection or sustaining one. There are so many causes of erectile dysfunction which I would not go into till we get to topics related to the sexual intercourse phase.

Do you have a partner that is as cold as ice and it seems as if no matter what you do, you just can’t get her interested in your goodie bag.(lol) Just imagine lying next to a beautiful woman who has made it obvious there is no more you can do to please her. Chai! The sensate focus is a simple but organised checklist of things to do when at a cross road like in the examples above.

Now these are the steps of the Sensate Focus: (My guess is that I have your attention 100%, hehehe)

• Touching partner without genital contact for subject's own pleasure (-subject is the one who needs more help. Think about areas of the body your partner might like you to touch or simply ask.

• Touching partner without genital contact for both partners pleasure. Focusing of the spouse's pleasure also brings you pleasure.

• Touching genitals but sexual intercourse not allowed

• Touching partner and also being touched with genital contact but sexual intercourse not allowed.

• Intercourse allowed but no male thrusting, just vaginal containment (go in and just stay there)

• Thrusting and vaginal containment allowed but orgasms not allowed.

This technique is fantastic for inexperienced people, by the third trial; you would have become a guru ♡. Someone should try it and let’s know if he/she got a good result.

Doc Laitan