For ladies only.... The role of sex appeal in sexual excitement . SXT 108

Here is a typical scenario: A woman complained about her sexual relationship with her husband. She said he comes home late from work and doesn't want sex from her. She has an infant to care for and also works 9-5. Her mood has been low and she needs help saving her relationship.

Now, this problem seems huge but the solution is simple. First we have to establish the sexual orientation of the guy.  This means ensuring he isn't gay.  If he isn't, then my friend congratulations. I can't imagine being a guy and not liking "fussy"(aboki accent) lol, or as a babe I should catch my bobo in bed with another bobo!(Oghene biko). 

Secondly, does he have an erectile dysfunction? (SXT 107)
If he doesn't, then my dear, glory be to God. Basically you have to establish that the problem is reduced libido which may be due to financial problems, traffic, child(ren) issues, family problems, work issues or even small health issues. Note that I haven't said anything about the fact that he might be having an affair with another woman. The reason is simple; A woman shouldn't be bothered whether her man cheats or not, you should only make sure that you are the most important woman in his life and let him know that you trust him. Even when you suspect him, love him more. 

The next step is to check your self. Segun met and married Clara when she was a size 10, after dropping one baby she became a size 14. Lepa Clara that used to be flexible now would just lie there and receive, no contribution whatsoever! Or he fell in love with Clara's curves and now she is trimming down and has become a lepa without asking his permission. Ask yourself what has changed about you. Is it your fashion sense?Are you more carefree about your looks now? Are you now boring?Are your underpants not matching and exciting?Do you pay more attention to your kid(s)?Have you been lazy in bed? Are you eating too much and gaining weight more than he likes? Are you lazy in the kitchen? When was the last time you bought him a gift? When was the last time you took him out?When was the last time you gave him a hug at the door? 

The truth is that being a woman in a relationship is hard and emotionally draining. The guy is  indisputably your first child, finish! Sex appeal starts with your looks and ends with your affections. 

Lemme teach you what to do when you know he loves you, but some how he doesn't want you in bed. 

 1. Escape from work and go to the salon.  Do something nice and get your eyebrows groomed. The idea is to look different from the way you did the last time he saw you. 

2.Meet him at the door, collect whatever he is holding and give him a hug. Make sure you make contact and hold the hug longer than usual. Not too long but long enough. 

3.Make him a decorated meal.  Don't just splash the soup on the rice or eba. Make it look presentable; arrange dodo in chains, dice his meat and arrange it on the other side of his plate, make his rice in the shape of a cone or square, put some sweet corn, anything nice.  Just let it look like you put some extra effort on his food. 

4. Before or after his meal, encourage him to take a warm bath. 

5. Encourage him to go to bed early and while in bed, make sure you can give him at least 1hour of uninterrupted time. During this time, take off his shirt and give him a wet massage. You have to explain to him that you know is under alot of stress and so you would like to give him a massage. A wet massage is done with cream preferably his body lotion, yours or any available one that smells lovely. Place yourself in a comfortable position, let him lie chest down, rub the cream generously on your palm first then massage his neck, back of head, whole back, buttocks, legs and feet. During this process, tell him to feel free to sleep off any time he wants but engage him in conversation (sleep ko, sleep ni, lol). 

At some point when you know he is enjoying it, take off your clothes and show off your nice new underwear, make sure it is lacy and matching. Preferably red, black or white. Don't attempt to shag him(relax, we know you are horny, lol) remember you are only trying to show him how appealing you are in looks and with affection. Just keep massaging him. When you are done with the back, ask if he would like you to continue in front. If he says YES, then my guy don dey....  if he says NO, then my dear, you did not do it well. You would have to try another time, but insist on turning him around and then give him the icecream treatment in SXT 103. Make sure you are not in your period o. 

I'd keep writing,you just keep reading and be sure to leave your comments. One love my people(does Tuface still say that razz phrase?) Lool. Cheer peeps. 

 Doc Laitan