16 December 2013

Sex addiction SXT 148



Sex addiction isn't just having too much sex, it is a serious problem in which one engages in persistent and increasing patterns of sexual behavior despite increasing negative consequences to one's self or others.

Like other addictions, these behaviour continue despite sincere and persistent efforts to stop. Some might not think sex can be addictive because there are no chemicals involved. However, the body produces many hormones and neurotransmitters during sex that produce the same chemical "high" as drugs or alcohol. Sex addicts, like other addicts, often have a background of abuse (sexual, physical, emotional) and/or neglect, and family histories linked with numerous addictions.

If you and your spouse enjoy sex together and have sex everyday, it is not sex addiction but if you have sex even when you or your spouse are very ill, or neglect other sources of interest for sex like children's welfare or your occupation, then you might be a sex addict.

Madam,If you use your dildo on yourself everyday and cannot go to work without feeling the 'high' of an orgasm, then you might be a sex addict.

Oga, if you find yourself running to the toilet everytime with soap/cream in your hands, and your hand on your penis, then you might be a sex addict.

If you find yourself always veiwing erotic videos, reading erotic books, browsing for erotic images and activities online, and subsequently have to find a sexual outlet by yourself, your spouse, a child, a prostitute, or an elderly person.......then my friend, you might be a sex addict.

If you find yourself lusting over a child below the appropriate age for sex, and eventually raped or molested the child, you need help because you might be a sex addict.

What are the signs of sex addiction?
When sex has become addictive, it is used compulsively to "numb-out," get a "high," or both.
An indicator that sexual addiction could be present is if someone expresses concerns about the sexual behaviour of a spouse or partner, changes that was not a part of their relationship (like viewing pornography or visiting a strip club).
Another sign is if you keep sexual behaviour hidden from a spouse or others because you feel ashamed about it, or feel these behaviours may be unacceptable.



Ask your self these questions
1.Have you lost control over your sexual behaviors?
2. Have you crossed lines you didn't think you would cross? Set limits on your sexual behavior that you have failed to meet?
3.Have you experienced negative consequences (such as the loss of a relationship, being less productive at work, or spent less time with family or friends) because of your sexual behavior?
4.Or would you experience negative consequences if others found out about your sexual behaviors?
5.Have you tried to stop any sexual behaviors but eventually returned to them?

If a positive response is given to any of these 5 questions, it is a good indication that you have become sexually addicted.

What are some behaviors associated with a sexual addiction?
Compulsive masturbation, simultaneously or repeated sequential affairs, pornography, cybersex, phone sex, multiple anonymous partners, unsafe sexual activity, partner objectification/demand for sex, strip clubs and adult bookstores, use of prostitutes/escorts, sexual aversion, frequenting massage parlors, sexual paraphilias (a need for unusual sexual stimulation) and/or any sexually offensive behavior.

Treatment of sexual addiction is by a professional and it involves a process of acceptance, understanding sex addiction, talking about the problem,learning ways to reduce or stop the addiction, mending broken relationships, improving self esteem and confidence.