Talking to a little boy about sex while trying to educate him might be difficult. Imagine a little boy that already calls his Mr Young "kaikai"! He is just 3 years old and he knows his kaikai is only for peeing. You can tell him not to let anyone touch his kaikai, but can you tell him not to put his kaikai inside something?
Already to the little boy, kaikai looks like something that can enter another object, people have caught thier boys around that age trying to squeeze their penises into bottles or some containers. They like to put it into things, period!
A little boy between age 3-5 can be sex educated this way
1. Tell him not to let anyone else who is not mummy or daddy touch his kaikai, only if he needs help with pee pee or when bathing.
2. Tell them not to touch anyone else's kaikai, that it is a secret part of the body.
3. Ask him what he calls his Mr Young or name it for him. Use something funny like kaikai.
4.Discourage them from being alone with someone who likes to tickle them or talk about their kaikai, or someone who wants them to touch their own private part.
5. Tell them to run away and shout for help if someone wants to touch their kaikai or insists that they touch theirs.
6. If during a TV programme, the scene becomes too intimate, tell them to cover their faces explaining that the programme isn't for children (and be ready to explain why).
7.keep your body a secret too especially when around them.
8. Encourage them to knock before entering your room, and to say "excuse me" if they walk in on you inappropriately dressed.
9. Most smart boys at this age feel their scrotum and ask what the round things inside are, most parents are quick to call them "eggs". Just be ready to explain why these eggs can't be eaten and why it is in his body(#walking away).
Between age 5 and 9, boys already know that a girl has a vagina. He has probably seen his sister's own and knows it is different from his own. He knows mummy and other girls have a different kind of kaikai. He knows he should explore and find out where their "eggs and the long kaikai" are. At that age they are curious. These might help:
1. Tell them daddy also has his type of kaikai (not that he didn't already know).
2. Ask if he likes any girl in particular in his class and what he likes about her.
3. Ask if he likes boys more than girls. At this age the answer is yes beacause they play alike and don't like 'princessly' girls
4. Ask him why he thinks girls 'puninis' are different.
5. Ask him what he thinks at this age the kaikai is used for.
From age 10, assume they already know that boys can have sex with girls, don't kid yourself, they already know! Teach them basic biology of the genital organs and let them know firmly but casually where babies really come from.
From age 14, please be informed that he masturbates and wants to have sex. Some boys would have had sex by now, had their first wet dream and know his friends have had sex. It is at this age that they have sex with their female house keeper, their female cousins or even their sisters. Yea, this time is crucial. At this point, give it to them straight, encourage them about waiting till they are ready, discourage masturbation and channel their energy towards their studies. Use Mama Funmi's method in the last article if necessary.
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