Hi Doc,
I am a modest man with average religious and moral standards. My first sexual experience was with my wife, we were both virgins when we got married but somehow she grew to enjoy sex even more than me. She really enjoys sex and she makes so much noise to let me know when I am doing the right thing. I even thought child birth would change her but it seems like she even wants more everytime.
I don't know how to feel about her moaning and screaming, it turns me on most times but sometimes it startles me. I don't know if is right because i have never been with other women, is it possible she is pretending?
Jude
Moaning during sex a.k.a female copulatory vocalization is a voluntary effort made by women to express pleasure and intrigue their sexual partners. Men do it too but I don't think it sounds right when they do it like women do. Let's agree guys, it should be limited to the ladies. Fine, guys can talk and tell her what you want but puleese don't moan. It's not sexy.
There are different scenarios that can cause moaning;
Firstly, a woman might really like what you are doing and try to encourage her bobo by dropping her solo track which he would enjoy till she or he COMES. When a woman is encouraging a man, she makes soft sounds and the louder she gets, the likely she is to achieving an orgasm. This is more likely when she is having finger sex and her nipples are also involved. Now Jude, if she screams every time she comes then you ought to be proud of yourself. More than 80% of women do not achieve orgasms and secretly wish they could.
Secondly, a woman might realise that she isn't going to achieve an orgasm soon and get tired of the drama. The only thing she can do is to drop her second best hit track on him and make him feel he is hitting it right so he can COME sharp sharp. Yep, the secret is out, sorry ladies.
Thirdly, a woman may need a favour in form of cash reward or otherwise. The only way to get this might be to make an X-rated movie and give the guy the best sound effects in the world. Sorry again ladies, more secrets out. It is difficult to know when a woman is pretending because the sounds are the same, but trust me.... if a woman achieves an orgasm you would know for real.
Whether or not women pretend during sex by moaning and screaming it doesn't really matter because even if they pretend initially, eventually it would become real. There is a treatment modality I use for some female clients who do not enjoy sex, I call it the MOAN THERAPY. The more you moan, the more likely you are to enjoy sex. Don't scream, moan....except your relationship needs some spicing up.
Some women actually enjoy sex but make a conscious effort to stay quiet. Good for them, one problem is that it feels like watching comedy at the cinema and being the only one not laughing out loud. The other problem is that your spouse isn't sure if you enjoy sex with him or not, with time he might see you as a sex object (SXT 129). Sex is fun and being quiet isn't fun. The next time you have sex, close your eyes and moan.
