Meanwhile,people have said my articles address more female issues than male issues. The reason is simple, women are less likely to seek help on relationship and sex matters. We are timid and less vocal, and unfortunately when we do tell someone about our sexual problems, we are likely to be seen as promiscuous.
I believe sexual problems are significant because sex is
an important aspect of any relationship. Problems like this can destroy a relationship, and females are less likely to be able to deal better with such emotional problems when they arise.
Women are also less likely to check the goodie bag before taking it home forgetting that sometimes the banana in the goodie bag can be rotten(smh). Please get somtin straight ,I don't support premarital sex , but I know that at an autoshop one is allowed to test drive a car before taking it home.
Enough of the preamble, let us focus on the topic of the day. Vaginismus is a sexual dysfuntion in which a woman's vaginal walls tighten when the vagina is approached. The vagina on its own would contract on insertion of a tampon, speculum(an instrument inserted into the vagina during a pelvic examination), penis, or other tins you bad bad children of nowadays insert (lol).This involuntary muscle contraction can be mildly uncomfortable or it may cause tearing pain, and can interfere with normal activities like sex or getting a pelvic exam at the clinic.
Painful penetration is often the first sign that a woman has this disorder. Women have described the pain as feeling "too small for a man's penis","hitting a wall", tearing pain, or "vagina not relaxed enough for sex". The pain usually (but not always) disappears after withdrawal.
The causes of Vaginismus
1. Anxiety or fear of sex. It is not that Mr Young is not of the right size or shape, Miss Caro(the vagina) is just in shock because the time, place, person, or other factors might be wrong. The anxiety, vaginal contraction and pain is a triad that continues until something is done. This means that the more the pain, the more the contractions and fear of the pain. 2.History of sexual abuse. A woman is sexually abused when she either doesnt give consent to sex or when her normal sexual partner is shagging in a non consensual manner; for example the guy is eager to try anal sex and she says lailai, but the guy goes ahead anyway and leaves her sore.This can make her scared of having sex with him . In this example, the type of vaginismus is called secondary vaginismus because it occured after a period of normal intercourse. In primary vaginismus, she would have had the problem from the first day she ever started shagging.
3. Circumstances . I find this particulary strange, for example Miss Caro is welcoming to one guy's Mr Young and contracts with another guy! Can we call this magun? Lol Miss Caro can also contract only when a speculum or tampon is inserted. Some doctors often miss Vaginismus at this point and may think the woman isn't relaxed enough for the pelvic examination when infact they should probe into the problem and treat as appropriate.
4. The condition can begin after the first attempt at having sexual intercourse. The size of Mr Young can be traumatizing for some girls especially if humongous! On the other hand, I think the vagina might also shut down to a carrot sized penis(lol)
5. It may also develop after periods of stress.
6. The vaginal walls may tighten automatically when sex is painful for any reason, compounding the difficulty.
7. Other medical problems like infections can also cause painful intercourse. It is thus important to see a doctor to determine the underlying cause of pain during sex. In some women the cause is usually unknown.
Treatment Of Vaginismus
Goods news peeps, Vaginismus is treatable and you can do it yourself!. The process is called "progressive desensitization" using kegel exercise( SXT 104). These exercises help women learn to control and relax the pelvic floor muscles around the vagina .
To do a Kegel exercise, contract your pelvic muscles as if trying to hold the flow of urine for a few seconds, then release. Do this frequently for about 20 times each time, about 4 times daily.
After about 3 days, do the exercise with a finger inside the vagina(in case you are wondering whose finger it should be, ask my oga at the top*pointing up my index finger*lol). Make sure you use a lubricant. A better place would be in the shower or bathtub so that water is the lubricant. Let the finger go up about 5cm. Increase the number of fingers as you get more and more relaxed. Some couples have tried different sized objects for gradual dilation but if you are more adventurous, try a small sized dildo.
Then over the next few weeks, when you sense adequate relaxation, try putting in the real thing. Usually, a positive result is expected after about 3weeks to 12weeks. Afterwards, shag away as you like. You can speed up the process using the sensate focus or ice cream treatment(SXT 102 )
A professional would use different sizes of dilators over few weeks till adequate relaxation is achieved, I would rather advice the self therapy method.
Psychotherapy would also be helpful for stress, anxiety and other psychological disorders that might be contributing factors to the Vaginismus.
To read more about about Vaginismus, please visit www.Vaginismus (the ".com" is silent)datsall....Lool. gotcha! Cheers peeps.
Doc Laitan
an important aspect of any relationship. Problems like this can destroy a relationship, and females are less likely to be able to deal better with such emotional problems when they arise.
Women are also less likely to check the goodie bag before taking it home forgetting that sometimes the banana in the goodie bag can be rotten(smh). Please get somtin straight ,I don't support premarital sex , but I know that at an autoshop one is allowed to test drive a car before taking it home.
Enough of the preamble, let us focus on the topic of the day. Vaginismus is a sexual dysfuntion in which a woman's vaginal walls tighten when the vagina is approached. The vagina on its own would contract on insertion of a tampon, speculum(an instrument inserted into the vagina during a pelvic examination), penis, or other tins you bad bad children of nowadays insert (lol).This involuntary muscle contraction can be mildly uncomfortable or it may cause tearing pain, and can interfere with normal activities like sex or getting a pelvic exam at the clinic.
Painful penetration is often the first sign that a woman has this disorder. Women have described the pain as feeling "too small for a man's penis","hitting a wall", tearing pain, or "vagina not relaxed enough for sex". The pain usually (but not always) disappears after withdrawal.
The causes of Vaginismus
1. Anxiety or fear of sex. It is not that Mr Young is not of the right size or shape, Miss Caro(the vagina) is just in shock because the time, place, person, or other factors might be wrong. The anxiety, vaginal contraction and pain is a triad that continues until something is done. This means that the more the pain, the more the contractions and fear of the pain. 2.History of sexual abuse. A woman is sexually abused when she either doesnt give consent to sex or when her normal sexual partner is shagging in a non consensual manner; for example the guy is eager to try anal sex and she says lailai, but the guy goes ahead anyway and leaves her sore.This can make her scared of having sex with him . In this example, the type of vaginismus is called secondary vaginismus because it occured after a period of normal intercourse. In primary vaginismus, she would have had the problem from the first day she ever started shagging.
3. Circumstances . I find this particulary strange, for example Miss Caro is welcoming to one guy's Mr Young and contracts with another guy! Can we call this magun? Lol Miss Caro can also contract only when a speculum or tampon is inserted. Some doctors often miss Vaginismus at this point and may think the woman isn't relaxed enough for the pelvic examination when infact they should probe into the problem and treat as appropriate.
4. The condition can begin after the first attempt at having sexual intercourse. The size of Mr Young can be traumatizing for some girls especially if humongous! On the other hand, I think the vagina might also shut down to a carrot sized penis(lol)
5. It may also develop after periods of stress.
6. The vaginal walls may tighten automatically when sex is painful for any reason, compounding the difficulty.
7. Other medical problems like infections can also cause painful intercourse. It is thus important to see a doctor to determine the underlying cause of pain during sex. In some women the cause is usually unknown.
Treatment Of Vaginismus
Goods news peeps, Vaginismus is treatable and you can do it yourself!. The process is called "progressive desensitization" using kegel exercise( SXT 104). These exercises help women learn to control and relax the pelvic floor muscles around the vagina .
To do a Kegel exercise, contract your pelvic muscles as if trying to hold the flow of urine for a few seconds, then release. Do this frequently for about 20 times each time, about 4 times daily.
After about 3 days, do the exercise with a finger inside the vagina(in case you are wondering whose finger it should be, ask my oga at the top*pointing up my index finger*lol). Make sure you use a lubricant. A better place would be in the shower or bathtub so that water is the lubricant. Let the finger go up about 5cm. Increase the number of fingers as you get more and more relaxed. Some couples have tried different sized objects for gradual dilation but if you are more adventurous, try a small sized dildo.
Then over the next few weeks, when you sense adequate relaxation, try putting in the real thing. Usually, a positive result is expected after about 3weeks to 12weeks. Afterwards, shag away as you like. You can speed up the process using the sensate focus or ice cream treatment(SXT 102 )
A professional would use different sizes of dilators over few weeks till adequate relaxation is achieved, I would rather advice the self therapy method.
Psychotherapy would also be helpful for stress, anxiety and other psychological disorders that might be contributing factors to the Vaginismus.
To read more about about Vaginismus, please visit www.Vaginismus (the ".com" is silent)datsall....Lool. gotcha! Cheers peeps.
