This might sound basic but before you start reading this article, think about this for a while; are you comfortable discussing sexual issues with your spouse? I am almost certain that in a room of 4 people, only 2 people answered positively. Some people don't know the right way to drop the bomb, so they just don't.
Imagine this wife of yours who says to you every time" baby, you have 5 minutes, do sharp sharp, I have stuff to do" . So she go just lie there but as a guy, you can't complain because one of your guys no dey even get anytin at all for him own side, so you go just thank God for your own, start your engine and fire away, and finish in 5 minutes. After you would be thinking to yourself that come o, i hope this babe isnt trying to give me premature ejaculation!
Guys also have their own , some guys have reduced libido,weak erections, premature ejaculation or maybe other foms of Sexual dysfunctions but are too egoistic to admit it, so they just act like the woman doesn't have a right to complain if she isn't enjoying the sexual relationship. In fact these kind of men give their wives serious attitudes so that there is no room for such complains. On the contrary, some men with such problems may be very kind and be a baba-nice-gentleman (In yoruba movie accent*, lol). They may be very romantic and loving that the woman would not want to ever complain about the sexual problem.
Whatever challenges you are facing in your relationship regarding sex must be discussed. Whether he treats you right or not, whether she gives Mr Young hiccups or not, you have to be comfortable discussing the issue. These are few tips on how to break the ice;
1. Great timing
Never before, during or after sex, choose a neutral time, maybe even during a date.
2. Introductory speech
A fantastic way that makes the mind soft and receptive is by telling someone good things about their personality.I always encourage the "BestTAG " (BEST THINGS ABOUT you GAME). By the time you have said 5 nice things about your spouse, they would want to know the bad things too, then you seize the opportunity
3. Avoid critism
Although be as honest as possible but remember no one is perfect. Approach the topic knowing you also have your own flaws, be respectful and avoid critiquing but be sure to drive home the point.
4. Pretend to be a shrink
Give them an opportunity to talk without much interruption but make sure the conversation doesn't lose focus. Ask questions to know what he or she thinks about your sex lives and what can be done to make things better.
5. Talk about the future of your sexual relationship
Once things have been said, talk about other things and make sexual plans for the future. Take trips and vacations together,plan to spend more time together to do things that can further strengthen your relationship.
If during the conversation, you both agree there is a sexual dysfunction of any kind,you may suggest seeking the help of an expert. As embarrassing as you may think the subject is, most couples actually enjoy the experience. To benefit from couples psychosexual therapy or for treatment of Sexual dysfunctions email doclaitan@gmail.com for enquiries.
Cheers,
Doc Laitan. __
